Category: Marriage & Relationships

The Valentine’s Day Gifts that Really Matter

While Valentine’s Day is traditionally touted as a time to celebrate love and happiness with a partner, for me, it’s also a reminder that unhealthy relationships exists and are actually quite common. No matter what age, gender, race, religion, education, or income level a person is, toxic relationships know no boundaries. Before I met my husband, I was in a relationship (during my uni years) which ended when a friend of mine intervened and drove me to the police station in the middle of the night.


Why You Should Do a Year-end SWOT and Performance Review on Your Marriage

For many businesses, the end of the year is usually spent producing financial reports and reviewing business operations. Every business has unmet goals and blind spots, as does every marriage. Doing a SWOT and performance review can help you revisit relationship goals, acknowledge weaknesses, develop a strategy to deal with obstacles, and extinguish threats before they become insurmountable.   (more…)

Why this Bargain Wedding was Better than any Hotel Wedding I’ve Ever Attended

I have a confession. This may sound harsh but I know many others who feel this way. I secretly cringe at the sight of a [Chinese] wedding invitation. It’s sort of a #thanksnothanks moment. I’m thankful you count me as a friend. But I’m not that fond of dressing up, wearing uncomfortable shoes, enduring a very lengthy dinner that’s devoid of vegetables, spending just two minutes congratulating you, but the rest of the time, mingling with others that I (or you) barely know. All this, while also helping to fund your special occasion. And for that, no thanks. (more…)

How to Fight About Money

Valentine’s day is often associated with courtship, roses, and chocolates. But are you and your soul mate destined for a long and happy future together? According to an article in Psychology Today, the “frequency of money disputes remains the single best predictor of divorce.” This ranked higher than other common fight topics such as child rearing, sex, household chores, and dealing with in-laws. Why are money fights so significant? And how can we have better fights discussions about money?